“Just lie down and close your eyes”.
I had overshared on social media again about the chronic migraines I was experiencing. Only this time I wasn’t just receiving unsolicited advice in the comment section, I was receiving an unsolicited phone call from someone I had never met.
“I’m going to fix your migraine. Just close your eyes and let me and my guides in”.
It was the end of my work day. All I needed was to go home and eat something and maybe soak my feet in some hot water, but now I was on the phone with a healer who was so forceful and dominating in her tone that it felt somehow unsafe to say no to her. As if saying no to her would be against my own best interest, which was absolutely her picture.
From my perspective, that healing was most unwelcome and invasive. I did not want her help, and didn’t ask for it. It felt crushing and I went immediately into resistance. I knew what I needed, and she was getting in the way of it. I did not recieve a healing that day, and actually came away from that phone call in more pain than before(and late for dinner). I was angry, irritated, and feeling burdened by what she was giving me. And the energy I sent her way, whether purposefully or not, was punishment.
But, as a healer, I’ve done this too.
Our nature, as healers, is to help. We get excited to give. We get excited by seeing the magical effects our work can have. In my years of doing this work, I’ve certainly overhealed, or jumped all over someone, given where it wasn’t wanted, or pushed myself into someone else’s space and ended up getting in their way. In these instances, before I understood conscious healing and what it is to have and see space,I was just doing what I thought was best. Just like the healer who called me when I was in pain - she wasn’t trying to get in the way of my healing, she thought she was helping. She’s not bad or deserving of punishment.
Looking back that experience, led me to growth that I needed to have - and helped me illustrate a lesson I had already learned but needed to see spelled out clearly to learn again.
When we impose ourselves and “healing” on others, we get in their way. In a healing space, we can easily get in the way of them having and creating healing that comes from their own desire to heal - that they are in charge of. Someone’s healing might look different than what you plan or expect, but they are never wrong in how they heal themselves.
One of the most important things to learn as a healer is to learn when and why you heal and to be in your own space as a healer. To learn to listen and how to receive and be in your own space as a healer. To learn how to make and hold space. When you learn this, the experience of the healing session changes for all involved. Magic happens. You make room for miracles. Freedom is found.
The how to give a healing is secondary.
If this turns you on or makes you pause, I invite you to join us for the brand new Art of the Empath training at Art of the Seer. Because when you learn to heal by giving space, you make room for miracles to happen.